A Gentle Message for April

Hello fabulous you,

I’m stopping by today to say happy April and share a gentle message that came to me that I feel is important to share.

You know how sometimes FB will do a popup of a memory? Well, this showed up, I wrote this back in 2014.

When you start loving yourself, truly loving yourself, without fear, without limits, you open to an inner secret that has been waiting for your awareness. It is in this inner sacred secret that your happiness lies.

The more I started to love myself, the more I started to appreciate myself, to let go of all the harsh thoughts I had about myself. The more I started to have compassion for myself. I began to feel happier and I started to put myself on the top of the list instead of on the bottom and I started to become the most important on my list. As my relationship with myself started to deepen and change so did everything else around me and my life has changed for the greater.

Your invitation – have a relationship with yourself, love yourself without fear, without guilt, without limitations.

You are worthy, you matter, you’re important, special and amazing!

I hope this post inspires, and serves you. Share your thoughts and leave a comment below, I love comments.

Happy April dear friends

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022

My 6 Best Tips for Inviting in Calm

Hello fabulous you!!!

I think that most of us are feeling the heaviness of what’s going on in the world, I don’t know how you can not, and as a result, all the heaviness that we’re letting into our system is creating stress in our bodies and affecting our nervous system. So, it’s important to take care of ourselves, to pay some extra special attention to our body our mind and our emotions. For me that is making sure that I am not stressing out by intentionally creating inner calm.

There is no right way or wrong way to self-care, it’s our own responsibility to be accountable for our own well-being. Making self-care a priority, should not be viewed as egotistical, selfish or a luxury. If anything, it’s smart and responsible to do.

Photo by Brooke Lark on Unsplash

How can you give yourself calm?

Take a few moments in the morning and check in with yourself. Spend a minute and sit quietly focusing inward, ask yourself, how are you feeling? What do you need right now, today?

Breathe – take a moment throughout the day and breathe in more deeply.  Just take a few real deep breaths to remember yourself.

Mental check – make a conscious effort to pay attention to the thoughts you’re having.  Are they compassionate to yourself?  Are they loving and kind to yourself?  What are you telling yourself? If, you’re putting yourself down, hitting on yourself, they are not benefiting your well-being, change them.

Watch a silly movie, one that makes you laugh, or a feel good movie, I like the Hallmark movies for this. Your body will become calm and relaxed because you’ll be focused on what makes you feel good.

If you’re at home, take a pause, a 20-30 minute nap will do wonders for you. 

Get off social media and give yourself a break from all that noise. Set limits to your social media scrolling time.

And one extra tip, splurge on something fabulous. Buy yourself flowers. Get a massage. A pedicure. A new purse. Give yourself a little pampering.

So, this is your invitation to bring calm into your body. Use my suggestions, create your own, do what feels good for you and creates inner calm for yourself, you’ll be grateful that you did.

I hope this post inspires, and serves you. Share your thoughts and leave a comment below, I love comments.

A few things that have delighted me

Here’s a DIY indoor herb garden, great idea to start now with Spring just starting, here

Love this, trendy pastel wall colors for your home, here

And

On my Insta. here Feel free to connect with me on Insta. love to see you.

Wishing you a wonderful Friday, weekend & week ahead & blessings!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022

Change Your Thoughts to Live the Life you Envision

Hello fabulous you!!! Happy Friday. Hope you’re well and feeling great!!!

Yesterday I had an AHA moment, I suddenly heard my thoughts and realized that, the thoughts I was having were keeping me away from the very thing I’ve wanted most.

It suddenly struck me that while I had this deep yearning to be connected in a deeper, greater way with my intuition, my higher self, my thoughts were not aligned with my deep desire and instead, they were a road block. To change that reality I have to change my thoughts.

Consciously choosing your thoughts is the key to living at your highest best. It’s the key to living the life you envision for yourself.

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So let me get right to it:

The thing is that, every thought you have can either expand you or sabotage you. You’re either elevating yourself or you’re contracting and keeping yourself small. You’re either living from a place of fear or from a place of love. That’s the power of your thoughts.

Every thought you have about yourself, about Spirit about the universe, defines you. It dictates who you are, what you believe, what you feel and what you do. It creates the reality that you’re living every day. And, your thoughts don’t just stay in your head, they filter through to every part of you. Your whole entire system, your body, every organ in your body, every cell, every everything about you responds to the thoughts you carry in your mind.

Every thought creates a feeling, which creates an experience, which creates an action. No feeling, no emotion, no experience no action happens without a thought first.

What you hold onto to be the truth for you, is the reality that you live every day.

Have joyful thoughts and you feel joy. Have positive thoughts that uplift you and you feel empowered. Have thoughts that say you’re not good enough, that you’re less than and you feel defeated. Think you’re just never going to make it and you won’t, think that you can do anything and you will. This is not to say that you change a thought and whala you’re living on easy street and a million dollars falls into your lap. You’re co-creating your life with the universal mind, you also have to do your part in all of this, you have to take action that is aligned with universal law.

A couple of things that worked for me:

* Become conscious of your every thought.  When you hear yourself having a thought that is putting you down or is not aligned with your goals and dreams, don’t beat up on yourself, just say thank you to your thought, let it go and change it to a positive thought, one that inspires you.

* Make positive affirmations a part of your daily self-care. Say affirmations to yourself that are kind, compassionate and aligned with your vision for yourself. I am good.  I am wealthy. I am smart.  I am loving. I am worthy.  These words may not seem like anything special, but trust me they are a powerful key to changing your reality. They are even more powerful when you feel them. You can write your own or do a google search. If you write your own, write them in the present tense as if it’s already true. When I first started to say affirmations I didn’t believe in them and I was scared, I saw it as egotistic and self centered but I continued because they felt good. I still say affirmations every day.

So, here’s todays invitation for you – it’s possible for everyone to change, it just takes a willingness to and a dedication to, wanting to change. You have the choice of every thought that you have, you have the ability to change every single thought to a different one. As you accept this possibility and you will start to let go of that which is disempowering and sabotaging you, you’ll begin to embody more of your own truth and the vision you hold for yourself.

Every day is a fresh start to make changes, to become who you want to be – You are capable of amazing things!

Wishing you a wonderful Friday, weekend & week ahead & blessings!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022

Use Journaling to De-stress

Hello fabulous you!!! Happy Friday. Hope you’re well and feeling great!!!

I’m really excited to share with you the one practice that helps me to process and release, emotional thoughts and feelings, that create chaos in me, and that’s journal writing.

But, before I get into the benefits of journal writing to de-stress, I just want to clarify for those of you who are not journalers that, journal writing is just the simple act of writing down your thoughts and feelings. There’s no mystery, there’s no right or wrong way, there is just your way. It’s a simple easy way of expressing yourself, and we all need that at one time or another.

Let’s face it, we all have our moments. We stress over work, over money, relationships, health issues, things happen and we sometimes can’t help it, we’re human.

It’s during those times when I find that reaching for my journal is the greatest self-care I can give myself. Writing out my thoughts onto the page gets them out of my head and my body, and helps me to gain clarity , calm and restore myself.

Here’s the important thing:

Journal writing doesn’t have to make sense, it doesn’t have to look pretty or have special pretty words. It doesn’t have to be grammatically correct, or be writing in a pretty and expensive journal. I like to use a regular one or three subject notebook, it’s where I feel the most free to write. What you’re doing is just taking your thoughts that are scrambling around inside your head and getting them out onto the page in whichever way they come to you, also known as a brain dump. And, it doesn’t matter which format you use. Make a list, mind map, write a paragraph, a sentence or a few pages, what matters is you get your thoughts out of your head and out of your body because, those thoughts are creating feelings that are creating stress.

Here’s how:

Get your pen and paper and just start writing. If you find it difficult to just start writing, start with a question – How am I feeling? What is bothering me? And just keep writing, let the words come out, dump everything that’s inside your head onto the page. This is your place to rant and rave. Your journal is your free zone, your therapist, your best friend. But, bear in mind that a journal doesn’t replace a professional therapist when needed.

And this is really important, open up to yourself and be honest and truthful. Don’t edit your thoughts, it’s the only way you’ll get a clear vision of what’s going on. Before you start you may want to remind yourself that this is just for your eyes alone. You don’t have to show it to anyone or post it on social media unless you want to. You can also burn it (safely) shred it, toss it, or keep it, it’s all up to you.

When you’re done writing and feel complete, close your eyes for a moment, take a couple deep breaths and pay attention to how you feel. Do you feel less stressed? More calm? More clear about things?

So, this is your invitation to discover for yourself how journaling can be a powerful tool to process difficult emotions, help you to work through the thoughts that are creating stress, and help you to gain clarity and calm.

I hope this post inspires, and serves you. Share your thoughts and leave a comment below, I love comments 🙂

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A few things that have delighted me

An interior designers tiny Stockholm apartment, how colorful, here

I love one pot cooking and these pasta dishes look interesting, here

And

On my Instagram a little inspiration, here and if you’re not following me, come on over and be a part of our community, love to have you.

Wishing you a wonderful Friday, weekend & week ahead & blessings!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022

I Had an IC Flareup and What I Did

Hello fabulous you!!! Happy Friday. Hope you’re well and feeling great!!!

I’m a creative and I love creating these blog posts. I love writing content that inspires and motivates but, I haven’t been able to write anything because the thing is that, I had an IC (Interstitial Cystitis)  flareup that lasted for five weeks.  It’s the first time since I was diagnosed with IC that I had such an intense flareup and for so long.  It’s a painful experience and it took everything out of me, my whole concentration every day was on managing the flareup.  I’m so happy to say and I’m so grateful that, I’ve been flareup free for a week now.

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We all go through rough periods but, instead of giving into it, talking about it all the time, keeping ourselves inside the pain and promoting more of what we don’t want, we need to, as difficult as it may be, change our mindset and give ourselves exactly what we need in that moment.  For me right now that means giving myself quiet time, lots of self-care, eating mindfully, not allow myself to be stressed, and give myself the time to heal.

What I did

Food plays a major role in the flareup so, I’ve been eating very plain bland food. I only sprinkled a little garlic powder on fish and poultry before cooking, and mostly I boiled my vegetables in just plain water.  I really babied my bladder by eating only bladder friendly foods.  There was one time during those 5 weeks when I had to take an anti-inflammatory pill and that also helped.  I like to take a wholistic approach with my health, but when I absolutely have to I will include traditional medicine.

In addition I wholeheartedly believe that keeping a positive mindset, and seeing myself already as healed, is also key in the healing process. What you focus on multiplies and I wanted to focus on being healed. I also said positive affirmations every day like, I’m healed, I am healthy, and I wrapped my bladder and my whole body with loving thoughts every day. This wasn’t easy but I did my best to concentrate on the energy I needed, trust in myself, listen closely to my body and give myself what I needed to heal.

The other thing I did is every morning when I prayed, I asked Divine Blessed Mother for her compassion and gave thanks for my healing.

I believe that the combination of all of the above together, helped me to deal with the flareup and heal.

I hope this post inspires, and serves you. Share your thoughts and leave a comment below, I’d love to read it.

A few things that have delighted me

How cute are these? Nail art for Valentine’s, here

From the ‘self care express’ here

And

On my Instagram a little inspiration, here and if you’re not following me, come on over be a part of our community, love to have you.

Wishing you a wonderful Friday, weekend & week ahead & blessings! Happy Valentine’s Day!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022

Document your Daily Joy

Hello fabulous you!!! Happy Friday. Hope you’re well and feeling great!!!

I’ve started to really love making lists, my new journaling obsession. Especially now during these trying times while dealing with this pandemic, which is hard enough, I’m also dealing with a health issue and all I want is easy, light, happy things. I want JOY. If you’ve been following me you know that I talk a lot about joy, but here’s a new way that I discovered that really makes me happy.

Every morning I set the intention to find joy that day.  It doesn’t have to be big, it doesn’t have to be extravagant or perfect or approved by anyone. When I go over my day in my planner, the first thing I do is make a small space for my – daily joy –  I’m looking at the things that occupy my day and make my heart smile. Things like cleaning out my closet, grocery shopping. Dinner with my son. Even something as simple as getting a package in the mail from Amazon, makes me happy. I sometimes order a couple of things at the same time so, it’s like getting a present I never know what’s inside.

Purposely looking for and documenting my daily joy has become a way to pause, look inward and be in the moment, and I really love writing them down in my journal. Some days my ‘daily joy’ list can be one thing and other days it can be three or five.  The amount doesn’t really matter, what matters is that I was present and connected with myself and something greater than me that day, and I wrote it down and that makes me so happy.

The choice of finding joy in something as simple as peeling a potato lies within you, joy is your choice.

Lists are an easy and simple way of documenting and noticing your days, you can look back and see things that you would perhaps not remember. This list making has become a support system for me, when I’m having one of those days, when I’m feeling anxious, I can look at my lists and find comfort. Liz Lamoreux put it best “Making lists, noticing the little things, paying attention to what is greater than me and what is within me, well, these things have become an anchor.”

So, here’s my invitation to you. Join me in making your own daily list, it’s a way of looking inward and noticing yourself, of really being present with yourself and uncovering the joy in the every day.

For me, this is a part of my daily self-care, it’s what makes me feel good and nourishes my soul. I love it.

I hope this post inspires, and serves you. Share your thoughts and leave a comment below, I’d love to read it.

Here are a few things that have delighted me

If you like crafts, here’s a fun DIY valentine project for you and your kids, grandkids, check it out, here

And

On my Instagram a little inspiration, here and if you’re not following me, come on over be a part of our community, love to have you.

Wishing you a wonderful Friday, weekend & week ahead & blessings!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2022