Stand Up and Shout I LOVE ME!!!

Hello everyone, I’m really excited to share with you another one of my articles, originally published in the February issue of The Inspired Guide magazine (here) page 48.  If you haven’t already read it, hope you enjoy it.

^^^^^^

When I was asked to write about, loving yourself, I was so excited I jumped at the chance and said YES. This is exactly in alignment with my goals this year, write/coach about manifesting and learning to love yourself.

And then I went blank, I shut down, I started and wrote and deleted it all a hundred times over.  Nothing seemed right or good enough, I couldn’t get the words out.  My inner critic, always looking to protect me, was hard at work – who do you think you are? You don’t know enough.  You don’t have a college degree.  This is too hard, let’s watch a Hallmark movie.  I even considered telling the publisher that I can’t write this. But my inner guide was pushing me to write.  I manifested this for myself, the Universe was showing up for me and all my old fears were showing up too.  I fell back into my old story. Hide and don’t let anyone see you.  Just say you don’t know.

to love yourselfMy parents were Holocaust survivors, I grew up hearing of the horrors they lived through.  In their effort to protect me, they unknowingly instilled all their fears into me.  As a child I didn’t understand the meaning of the words, but I felt their pain.  Each word my mother spoke landed inside the very core of me.  I internalized beliefs and fears about me, life and God that didn’t belong to me.  And I lived by them.

You never know how or when your old beliefs can show up, and your old story can take a hold of you and strip you of self-confidence, of any thoughts of being enough, and all the inner work you did disappears. Like out of nowhere my, “you’re not good enough” beliefs about myself were playing in my head.  After a couple of days of struggling with this, I finally asked my inner guide for help in my journal. The answer I got was “be daring, the words you’re writing come from the deepest part of love inside you, they are Spirit and this is part of your journey so write it, it’s ok you are safe and protected and loved…Don’t be afraid.”

So here I am, “daring” revealing that – to love yourself is part of the journey.   Take small steps, one step at a time if you have to, but get to know who you are, be rooted in your own heart.  I believe that part of our purpose in life is to get to know ourselves, to peel away all the false beliefs we take on from childhood.  From our parents, society, from our culture, and to find ourselves.

When I was 50, I had a spiritual awakening, in one moment the Universe showed herself to me and I knew everything and I knew nothing all at the same time.  From that moment on began my journey to find me, God, and what life is about.  Every time I was able to excavate a belief that I was buried under, or bust through a wall I built around me to protect myself, I felt a freedom I had been longing for all my life.  I started to see me, life, and God in a new light, my light.  I was slowly unlocking myself from limiting beliefs that kept me small and opening to a higher version of me.  And somewhere along the path of transforming, I also started to love who I was becoming.

Loving myself has been the magick key that has given me the courage to dream big.  It’s helped me to trust and believe more in myself.  To live with intention, and be committed and honor my life.

I believe the greatest gift we can give to ourselves is to love our-self.  It’s our responsibility to get to know who we are in this life.  To love, honor and cherish our self wholeheartedly.  When we love our self, we are powerful beings emanating from within healing love energy, out into the Universe.

4 Tips to start loving yourself:

1 – Write it down.  When fears stop you, write them down.  They may not seem so scary on paper.  Ask where did you get this from?  Do you really believe it?   Change it to something true for you.

2 – Become conscious of your thoughts, they are the nourishment you’re feeding yourself with.  Every time you have a thought that puts you down, weed it out, replace it with one that honors you.

3 -Celebrate you, do one thing that makes you happy every day.  Sit quietly savoring a latte.  Read a book on your lunch hour.  Buy yourself flowers.  Wear your favorite earrings while cleaning.

4 – Start a gratitude journal and write three things you’re grateful for – about yourself – every day.  I’m grateful I accepted a compliment without putting myself down.  I’m grateful I gave myself luxury thoughts today…

With the right mindset and a willingness, you will create positive changes.

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2020

 

Do We Need External Validation

The greatest gift that we can give to ourself is to know ourself and believe in our own self-worth.  I think that’s one of our purposes in this life, to grow within and uncover the layers and layers to get to the core of who we are, believe and know our true authentic selves.

validation

How much do you hold yourself back because you don’t believe in your ability?

Too often we have a great idea but we don’t unfold it because we fear that it’s not good enough.  We fear rejection or criticism, and our ideas and dreams never come to light.  We disempower ourselves and doubt our own self-wroth, we sit and wait for that validation, for someone to come and tell us how wonderful we are, how brilliant our ideas are.  We yearn for that outside confirmation that will give us that go ahead sign, yes you can do it validation, before we dare to go after what we want or share our dreams with the world.   And yes, it’s great when others validate us and affirm our self-worth and tell us how wonderful we are, that’s all good and great, take it, thank them but that should not be what validates us.  Our validation should be from within ourselves, we need to know it in our own hearts, in our bones, that’s where our power comes from, that’s where the magic lies.

We are sacred beings and we are worthy of all that our heart wants and desires.  We’re a star within the cosmos, we each have great value and we each are worthy, just as we are.  We need to not only know that, but embody it, believe it, we are the miracle we’re looking for.

When we know our own self worth we are empowered with our own self validation.

The card is from: Sacred Creators Oracle, created by Chris Anne

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2019