A Time for Extreme Self-Love

This is a time for extreme self-love and self-care, and I like all of us, need some extra special love right now.  I’m trying to be strong for my kids so they don’t worry about me, but the truth is  that I’m a bundle of emotions.  I have moments where I’m totally stressed out, on edge, anxious and then I have moments where I’m feeling calm and joyful and I know everything will be all right.

I think that practicing self-love & self-care right now is more important than ever.  Loving ourselves and caring for ourself has to be an essential part of our daily routine. It’s not a luxury, it’s an essential part in keeping ourselves healthy, strong, and maintaining a healthy immune system.

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One of my self-love practices is, I write myself a ‘love note’ and I like to place it on the end table in my hanging out room so I can see it throughout the day.  Every time my eyes land on – hello self I love you – it makes me smile, uplifts me and fills me with joy.  I wrote this a couple of months ago, and I’m still looking at it every day, and it’s still nourishing me.

If you need some extra special love right now, try this – write yourself a love note – place it someplace where you’ll see it throughout the day, it can be anything that makes you feel good.  Your own words, a phrase from a book, lyrics from a song…anything that will elevate your spirit, make you smile, feel good, feel happy and fill you with joy.

Buddha said “You, yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.”

And now more than ever we all need to do whatever we can to empower ourselves and give ourselves self-love & self-care to get us through this time.  And let’s remember that this will pass and – Everything will be alright.

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2020

Ways to Simplify

Slow down.

Declutter.

Set boundaries.  Say yes, only to what you really mean yes to.

Accept to love yourself without guilt or shame.

Let go of what doesn’t matter.

Let go of what’s not yours to worry over.

Let go of other people’s drama.

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Liberate yourself and let go of limiting beliefs.  Weed them out and let go of them, and  take that first step towards freedom.

You choose – decide to be healthy, happy, prosperous, worthy, deserving, loving…

Have gratitude for the little things, even the ones you think are meaningless.

You cannot get to your true self while you’re covered up with overwhelm.

Live consciously.

Create an easy morning routine that supports you.

When you simplify your life you’ll gain more energy, you’ll remove extra mental and physical clutter, you’ll feel lighter, you’ll gain space and time.  You’ll be opening doors to your own inner self.

Simplify your days, simplify your life.  Make room for your true self to shine.

Love to hear your thoughts.

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2020

What a Kind Word Can Do

I don’t think this will be a surprise to anyone, but giving away a kind word is free.  A positive kind word will definitely inspire an inner shift in how we feel.  Just think of how you felt the last time someone gave you a compliment out of the blue, telling you – great job…you look beautiful…I bet that felt pretty good, It most likely lit you up and put a smile on your face.  🙂

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A positive kind word can change someone’s day or even days.  So, let’s dole it out, let’s give it freely from our heart, it’s free, especially now during the holiday season when we’re all so busy rushing about trying to get it all done, and maybe feeling a bit stressed with all that is on our to do lists.  Receiving a kind word can uplift our spirit and create a sense of well-being.  Just a simple – thank you – coming from the heart can touch someone in a special way and transform their day.

And you never know, your kind word may have a ripple effect, that person now may turn around and do the same, and change someone else’s day.

So let’s do it, my kind word for you lovelies is – You are AMAZING!!!

Kindest Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2019

Happy Spring!!!

Spring is here!!!

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I just wanted to stop by and wish you Spring blessings and share this quote I love  –

“Can words describe the fragrance of the very breath of Spring?”  ~Neltje Blanchan

Happy Blessed Spring!!!

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2019

 

Learning to Embrace my Imperfections

I pulled this card today, and I wanted to share it with you because it’s the perfect message right now.  It asks “What can you release to connect to the source of your power?…”  It’s perfect because I’ve been beating myself up over having put my foot in my mouth a couple of days ago, and I’m still feeling bad over it and I need to release that out of me so I can connect with my inner power.  Can’t do it if I’m holding on to my mishap, and putting myself down with negative self talk.

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Sometimes I say something, or do something without thinking, it just comes out of me, and later it hits me and I’m like OMG!!! I can’t believe I said that or did that.  When that happens I have a habit of beating myself up and making myself crazy with negative self talk.  I should have known better.  Whatever possessed me?  Why didn’t I stop myself?  I should have…and I’m thinking about how what I said, or did, is perceived by others or how it affected others and what must they think of me, and what can I do now to change it, and…OMG I just can’t believe myself… And the beating up on myself goes on and on…and all it does is make me anxious, stressed out and I feel even worse.

This is part of my growing and honestly, learning to embrace my imperfections has not been easy and I haven’t found that one quick fix yet.  And hey, if you know of one please let me know because I’ll take all the help I can get here.

So here’s the wisdom this card offers – It’s during these times that I have to stop and remind myself that stuff happens and I’m not perfect.  I’m still working on myself and instead of beating myself up, I should ask myself how is this barrage of negative self talk helping? Am I empowering myself right now?  Look at it, learn from it, forgive myself and release it so – I can stand in my power.

If you relate to this message, I’d love to hear from you, feel free to share.

The featured card is from the, Elena Brower Practice You, Daily Awakening Deck.

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2019

Lets Get Real…

“The beauty that is within you cannot be contained…it will be reflected without; let it shine forth.” ~ Eileen Caddy

One of the hardest things for me has been to open up about myself and write about me. Oh I can talk very easily and tell someone about myself, no problem.  And at times even disclose secret things, but when it comes to writing them something happens to me, I freeze, I block, I can’t seem to get the words from inside to flow out to the page in the same way that I can get the words to flow out from my mouth.

I don’t know why that is, well I do. Mostly it’s because before I even start writing I’m judging, deleting, editing, criticizing every word before I even let it come into my consciousness if that’s possible.

Purple 2.jpegAnother reason stems from my childhood. My parents were both holocaust survivors, and from a very young age my father would warn me every single day not to tell anyone anything about me or my family. If anyone asks he would warn me, tell them “you don’t know” – These words made me hide myself away afraid to let anyone see the real me, “I don’t know” became my mantra for my life. My father passed away when I was thirteen years old, but his stern warning has stayed with me my entire life.

And then there is of course Miss Perfectionist at work here.  I worry over what people will think, how they will perceive me and that stops my words from flowing.  Instead, my writing becomes stiff, doesn’t sound like me and is laced with high fluting words that I probably would not use in normal every day conversation and this all because I want to look and sound intelligent and interesting and brilliant and clever… on paper.

Knowing all this has not made a difference, I’m still stumped and freeze and can’t write about me, my story, from my heart.

Pink summer flowers.jpegSo I decided to commit to myself and practice writing about ME every day.  Practice opening up, taking myself out of the way and allowing my divine inner self out.

I keep on thinking about what Anne Lamott says in her book Bird by Bird about the need to let go and write those “shitty first drafts” how we need to have those (and I’ll probably have lots of those) to gain clarity into our second and third drafts.  And for me a way to remove those blocks and get to the space of brilliance within.

So this is a start towards a more deeper conversation here, and a deeper more real blog. It may not happen every week, but I hope you’ll join in on the conversation and let me know how it makes you feel.

I’m getting real!

Blessings

COPYRIGHT MASHA G. ELLMAN 2017